Equality may be improving in the workplace and in many other areas of life which is amazing, but when it comes to relationships it does seem a lot of couples are still stuck in that generation gone by time warp of “woman does the housework “and “man brings home the bread’’, and for many this is breeding contempt.
Here are three ways to create more gender equality in your relationship.
Your partner may well be unaware of this wonderful concept of equity in relationships, so raise the topic and tell them about it.
Talk to your partner openly about it, discuss your thoughts, expectations, and boundaries with your partner, and listen to theirs. Be willing to compromise and find solutions that work for both of you.
2. SHARE THE CHORES
Gender equality in a relationship means sharing responsibilities equally. This includes household chores, childcare, and financial responsibilities.
However, do ensure you take into consideration exterior requirements when divvying up the chores. For example, if you don’t work full time but your partner does you may feel it fairer and more equal to adjust the number of chores you do slightly. Make a list of all the tasks that need to be done and divide them up. This will ensure that both partners feel valued and respected.
Keep checking in with the other about what needs to be done and who is happy doing what, and listen to each other to work out a compromise where needed.
This should massively reduce any stressed-out late-night arguing about who’s turn it is to take out the bins!
Many studies have found a link between splitting household chores and relationship happiness. So check in with your partner today and find out if they are happy with your current set-up and chore split. If not, write them down, talk about it and make changes which work for you both.
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